The 14 <--> 15 rule!
The rule goes like this: if you are not obeying Jesus (God) then you do not love Him and He is not your friend.
It is really quite simple and Jesus said this very distinctly in John 14:15 and 15:14: If ye love me, keep my commandments. John 14:15 Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. John 15:14 Don't be confused because one who is not a friend of God is thus an enemy of God and this does not equate to salvation!